Don't let external thing affect you
This morning was just an awful place to be on the tube as there was a delay, it was really crowded and the people were so rude. But, then again, I could blame so many people, and think about so many diffrence reason, but at the end there is nobody else responsible except me. I make all the calls and are responsible for all the decisions. My freedom is based on the decisions I make and the responsibility I take for them. So given any situation that affect you, here is the reasoning why it shouldn’t :
First of all, it is all up to me if I want the attitude and behavior of somebody else affect me. Like the expression of one of the most famous US first lady Eleanor Roosevelt goes : Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. It iIt is defintely true and makes more sense when you know how to let it go. It is of caurse
easier said then done, therefore I still need to be working on it everytime it happens. On the good side, everytime you overcome it it is a way to build patience. But most importantly if you are able to control your thoughts, just as you can change the road of your final destination on a GPS, you can keep adjusting them and select only the one that are beneficial to you and eliminate the others. Once you have the complete control of your thoughts, you become the real master of your own world and the possibilities become endless.
The second thing if it really affects me that much and I’m thinking that there is no way I can control it (this is obviously just a wrong assumption, as in theory you could have complete control over whatever you set your mind on )
Some Useful tips to let it go
The real question is how do you make external things not affect you. Here are som tips that I’ve experiment
-be aware of it and make it a habit to change yout thoughts route as soon as anything affects you
-take deep breaght and count to 3 (1001, 1002, 1003) to relax your habit
-thing of something pleasant. I always have this scene in the famous drug movie where Johnny Depp is search at the borders. He has a number kg of white substance in his suitcase and his advice is to divert your mind and think of something pleasant like making love to your girl.
-remind yourself that this situation is nothing and will not affect you in any ways. You will soon forget about it, so don’t even bother.
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Another thing that worked extremely well for me was to imagine a surrounding shield that blocks off all negativity from the external. Anytime Anything negative happens, its only external see it bouncing off of you. And not affecting you at all.
Another thing is Never judge or criticize Anything about you. Nothing you say, nothing you do. Keep a conscious. When you hear that inner critic, just name it, or accept it and know its just an inner critic. Its there to make you tougher